Toxic Individuals- How to Accurately Spot Them
There are toxic individuals in life. These are people who pull you down and make less of you, your life and your dreams.
They are given different labels by different groups. Current common labels include narcissists, manipulators and energy drainers. They add up to the same thing, someone who believes they must make less of you and others for them to be OK.
In Scientology, this individual is called a Suppressive Person. A Suppressive Person (or SP) is someone who openly or covertly (in a hidden way) attacks others. This could be a direct attack but is often something more hidden such as belittling the person while pretending to be their friend or gas-lighting (pretending something has been done or said when it hasn’t or vice versa).
SPs do this because they have a hidden terror of others. They believe that everyone else is an enemy and that the only way for them to survive is by keeping others down. They are very worried about others becoming more able, intelligent, influential or strong as they believe they would attack them.
It is vital that you accurately spot an SP in your life. Unfortunately, these individuals often accuse others of being narcissistic or toxic to cover up what they are doing. It is no good listening to others' ideas or comments, especially if you are the one wrongly accused. You must look and decide for yourself.
Thankfully, there are attributes that are easy to spot, which show if the person is an SP. There are also attributes of a social personality, which are the reverse. When looking at someone, you need to compare the sets of attributes and see which ones (anti-social or social) they display most of the time. You must look at both as anyone under stress can momentarily behave anti-socially.
There are 12 of these attributes which you will find in the Causes of Suppression booklet. We will look at five of them in this article.
1. SPs deal mainly in bad news and critical or hostile remarks. They do not pass on good news or complimentary marks. The social personality is eager to relay good news and does not like to pass on bad.
It is easy to see this by reviewing someone’s remarks, social media feeds, WhatsApp messages etc.
2. The antisocial personality alters, to worsen, communication when he or she relays a message or news. Good news is stopped and only bad news, often made worse, is passed along. A social personality passes communication without much alteration and, if anything, tends to delete bad news.
Again, these are easy to observe from what the person says and does in life and online.
3. An SP is surrounded by friends or associates who are not doing well in life. They are often ill, withdrawn or failing in some way. Friends of the social personality tend to be healthy, happy and doing well.
You can quickly review these to see which category the person falls into.
4. The antisocial cannot finish something they have started. They are surrounded by incomplete projects. Projects are completed by social personalities where possible.
This can be observed at work or in social groups.
5. An SP only supports destructive groups and rages against any constructive or betterment group. A social personality supports constructive groups and resists destructive groups.
An SP disapproves of anything that will improve you whether this is a course at college, joining a community group or becoming part of a self-improvement group. They will support destructive groups. The social personality does the opposite.
You can spot which by their actions and remarks to others.
There are 7 other characteristics that will help you to spot if the person is an SP or social personality, as covered in the Causes of Suppression Handbook.
By accurately spotting SPs, you will improve your life considerably. What do you do when you spot them and how do you deal with them? There is a lot of information on this important subject.
Your next step is to get and read the Cause of Suppression booklet. Order your copy today in the Bookstore here.