How to Overcome Your Problems

• Do you keep running into problems in life?

• Does life seem like a struggle?

• Have you ever tried to help someone with their problems, and they have not listened to your advice?

If so, this article is for you.

The first thing to understand is that something can be done about any problem or situation in your life.  The second is to realise that there is something you can do about it.  This second one might seem a bit daunting so let’s have a look at it. 

Whatever situation or problem you are facing in life, there will be something about it that you can confront, by which we mean face easily without flinching.  If you can confront something, then you can do something about it.

You cannot do anything about something you cannot confront.  However, you can improve your confront by finding something you can do and then doing it.  Once you have done this, you will find something else you can confront about the problem and situation.

Here is how you do it:

1.         Write down on a piece of paper a short list of the problems you have in your life.

2.         Read through and choose the problem which is the easiest for you to confront

3.         Write down what you absolutely know for sure you could do this problem

4.         Now do it.

Once you have done this, you will find that you can do other things about that problem until it is resolved.  You should then take another problem from your list that you now feel is confrontable and repeat the same process.

The only difficulty you may encounter is being overly ambitious, i.e. biting off more than you can chew, in step 3.  It is best to do something small first and then having done this do bigger things. 

This approach is also highly successful in helping others.  Most people stop giving advice because the advice they give is never followed.  The reason is that they are advising the person to do something they cannot confront or the advisor is trying to deal with a problem the perons doesn’t believe they have. 

This last one is common among partners, family and friends who disapprove of something the person is doing or someone they are associating with and think this is a problem.  For example, they don’t like the person’s choice of partner or friends and therefore see this as that person’s problem or try and show the person how all their problems stem from this choice. 

The person you are helping has to decide what problems they have and what they know they can confront about them.  If you follow the above process with them, you will be highly successful.  

This approach is highly workable for anyone who helps or advises others such as social workers or even business consultants.  It also works very well for parents trying to help their teenage (or older) children.

This is a simple yet highly effective way to overcome your problems in life and help others to do the same.  You can discover more in the booklet, Solutions for a Dangerous Environment.  You can order your copy in the bookstore here.